Dear Sister

Sometimes we stare so long at a door that is closing that we see too late the one that is open ~Alexander Graham Bell  ~ When one door of love opportunity ends, let it go. Too often, we want love so badly, that we hold on for dear life. Let go sister. You deserve better....V

Dear Sister,
This is an open letter to you
Of a tale we must all listen to...
There was this single woman I know, who possessed great beauty and brains
She went on many dates
There were some good ones
There were some bad ones
She prayed and prayed for change
She wanted the bad ones to go away
She wanted her Prince Charming
One day, she met a great guy
Smart, sexy, cute, a great job AND all those other winning attributes
Yep, he fulfilled a lot of things from her dream book
They had wonderful dialogue and chemisty
They exchanged numbers
And he called when he said he would
Their first date was electric
They laughed and talked liked reunited old friends
And during that conversation, he shared a truth
He wasn't interested in being serious
He had a few things he needed to do
His life wasn't yet complete
Be wanted to hang out, keep it light
"Is this okay with you", he replied, and flashed his dimpled, sexy smile
And she whispered "Sure, it's cool with me too"
They shared a passionate kiss
The chemistry flowed and flowed
And they settled down into a pattern
It felt like dating
Which she readily enjoyed
Instead of continuing to date others, to keep her search for Prince Charming going
She settled on this one
Why?
Because she felt SHE was the one
To make him change his mind
To make him want to settle down
To be his one and only
She worked overtime to blow his mind
Giving him - her body - great food - cool company - witty conversation
And all of her time - When he wanted any of the above
Of course it was all on his terms
This she didn't quite see
It felt so good to her, she knew he had to feel it too
On and on this went for sometime
But the story doesn't end riding off into the sunset
Eventually, the winds shifted
And he became less and less of how, who and what he was
Until slowly, there was no more
That he was interested in
The time had come for things to end
The more things unraveled, the harder she fought
To be better, do better
Accepting less and less
Hanging on for dear life
Why?
Because she knew SHE was the one
She could change his mind - if she just had more time to blow his mind
But she only had one body, time, soul and energy to give
And it just wasn't enough
For he had enough
He had told her the truth in the beginning
So long ago forgotten
And now she's left to sit at home
Alone ~ again
Wallowing in bitter tears
Why?
Because she wasn't the one
The sad thing about this whole story
The thing that she'll probably miss
If she took the time to be really honest with herself
He probably wasn't the one - for HER
Dear Sister,
We get so caught up in the man
So consumed by him and his needs
We forget about our plan, and what's important to fulfill our needs
We have dreams too - or at least we should
And a man who loves you, would care to know this about you
We get so caught up in the man
We lose sight of his character - lose sight of the good and bad
We lose sight of the truth
Which can only be revealed if we stop, look and really listen
Dear Sister,
You are a worthy prize!
Take your emotions out of the picture, and really analyze
This man that stands before you
Ask lots of questions - and listen for the answers
Compare them to what you want
Stop clinging to fantasies
It's time to get real
And if things don't add up
If he's not willing to meet you halfway
Dear Sister,
You have to be willing to let him go
Because honestly, the moral of this tale is
He's just another frog
He's not your Prince
Stop holding on out of fear
There are other doors of love opportunity
God has a better plan for you
Close this one....