Where is Your Heart?

The heart surrenders everything in the moment. The mind judges and holds back ~Ram Dass ~ Truth: It is our natural instinct to want to be loved. Infants recognize this and make every effort to have their needs met on demand. As we age, the bombarding of people telling us no, and the aftermath of rejection after rejection makes us leery. But it never diminishes what the heart desires. We simply learn to suppress it.


Past experiences are valid. They teach us lessons, just as a child sometimes learns the hard way, why they should not touch hot things we learn how to navigate our way through the minefield that is love. But that navigation is not designed to turn you away from the process of meeting someone. If you read a bad book, or see a bad movie it doesn’t stop you from ever reading or seeing another movie. Perhaps you won’t read anything else from that particular author. So why can’t we take this same view with finding love? If you meet and date someone and it doesn’t work out, take the information away from the relationship, but leave the bitter taste of it behind. Maybe you won’t date tall, sexy guys again. Maybe! Or maybe you’ll discover a little bit more of what you want, and quickly recognize and eliminate those people who don’t meet your criteria. Or better still, you’ll recognize that it was THAT particular man or woman, and it’s not an indictment on the entire species.

Love requires a bit of amnesia, because it’s difficult enough to navigate the terrain and kiss frogs without the added pressure of remembering all the wrong that has been done to you. Expect better from yourself and others. If you're going to remember some things, remember the great things - if there are any. If that's not possible, then perhaps it might be time for you to take a time out and sit in a corner for awhile until you are able to get up and out without an attitude. My thought is that you cannot receive anything with a closed hand. The same applies to your heart. How can you want something, if your mind is constantly telling you no? Be cautious, but be willing....