It's Not You....©

"It's not you, it's me"...have you ever heard this words, or better yet, have they ever crossed your lips? I've heard this line a time or two, and I realize that you are never prepared for those five simple words. It's just another way of ending things right; a seemingly more gentle way of softening the blow. Ease the burden of bad news. We never want to be perceived as the bad guy, especially when that other person has done nothing seriously to cause such a departure.

Here's the crazy thing about those words people - it is about you! Of course it is. What I believe is that the person who is sharing this information has looked into their crystal ball of life and they didn't see how you fit in their future. So it is about you ~ because it's not you. So simple. That was a revelation that came to me as I was writing this poem. And it's a more honest reflection of what is really happening. It's okay to decide that someone is not for you. But it's more honest to simply be willing to be honest. It helps put a real closure to things, and it helps that person to be better equipped going forward. Because often, they are left to wonder what it was that they did wrong. When it has nothing to do with being wrong or right. It just wasn't.

So take solace in the fact that yep, it's you, but know that it will always be about you - you just have to find the person who is willing to have it be about you AND that you are okay as is. No fillers or preservatives necessary. Just plain, old natural you will do......



It's Not You
It's Me
A simple phrase
common
The question I want to ask
How does it ease my pain?
my heart still feels the same ~ still hurts
It's Not You
It's Me
Oh right
They are supposed to comfort
So that I don't self reflect
beat myself up
somehow feel better
But it still hurts
It's Not You
It's Me
Why would I feel better?
You're still not here
I'll be alone
try thinking
put yourself in my shoes
Now do these words ring true - to you?
It's Not You
It's Me
This is such bullshit
It really is
Because if it wasn't me
wasn't some part of me
You would stay
You wouldn't leave
It's Not You
It's Me
I watch you
tear us apart
choose to leave
Instead of choosing me
and my heart breaks
I feel it shatter yet again
It's Not....
The Same
doesn't matter how you sugar coat it
It's Not...
The Pain
I don't have any tears this time
It's Not...
For Me
to try and understand
It's Not You
It's Not Me
It's Over
Just Over...