Be Your Change

You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of ~ Jim Rohn 


Your life can change. The love you seek, a healthier body, better job, richer relationships are all within your reach. But that change first starts at home; with you. Stop being passive, thinking that things just happen to you. No, you can't control the fact that it rains, but it's your fault if you're not prepared with an umbrella! Start the course, so you can stay the course. Change your reaction to change ~V

Living Life

”I'm an average girl, and sometimes I wish I could be more than that; to exceed excellence. As the days seem to go on endlessly, I await the 'someday' I've always been promised. That ' someday' when things are supposed to be perfect...the 'someday' when I find my place in this unforgiving world" ~Unknown ~ Truth: I don’t wait and watch my life pass me by. I face the toughest battle first – that God blessed me yet another day to open my eyes – and then I do my best to work my dreams. I don’t always aim high enough or do my best, but I get there many days. On those days that I miss the mark, I don’t beat myself up, yet I know it’s frustrating that I wasted a day. I’ve watched so many people, famous and not, leave this earth lately, and I know time is precious and we don’t consciously know our end, our spirits do. And I have to honor my spirit by WORKING each day I’m here. Get to work my people ~V

Thoughts of You

I thought of you today 
One of the millions of times it seems that you've intruded my thoughts 
Wait, what did you say?
I can't seem to think - numbers fade
Nothing but thoughts of you seem to flood me through and through 
Crazy isn't it, what love can do 
Makes you dizzy, giddy, thinking of silliness 
Like how it might be to be with you forever
As your Mrs 
It's sad I don't recall these things, when I'm mad 
Instead, I focus on the bad 
The forgotten toilet seat up yet again 
Things you don't understand 
That's all in the future
When love is not so fresh and new 
I don't see those things right now 
I only think of loving you 
And how good your lips feel pressed against mine 
And how I long to hear your voice....
Thinking and daydreaming, not focused on the day at hand 
Yes, I thought of you today... 

The Perfect Plan

Truth: In the middle of a storm, with chaos and darkness all around me, the one thing that I can always count on, is a tiny voice whispering in the deepest part of my soul - my mother's voice telling me, It's going to be okay...something she always said, even when there seemed to be no way out; no end in sight. She always found a way to make it right. When she was about to die, the minister who spoke to us said that sometimes, the perfect plan isn't the one we want, but that doesn't make it the perfect plan. Our prayer he said, should be for my mother's perfect peace. She died that night. The lesson? The plans you seek may not always turn out the way you want, but God gives the design we need always, perfectly. It's going to be okay... 


Thank you Mom ~V

Self Reflection

I had a friend slap me one night, in the middle of a drunken pity party I was having, lamenting about whether or not I would ever have someone who loved me, and that maybe even I didn't deserve love in my life. He asked me if the slap represented how I wanted to be treated, and feeling the sting of that slap on my face, I meekly replied no. He then quite simply told me that if I stopped abusing myself, others would also do so. What a revelation.  This is the place where this poem comes from....


Before you jump 
Into the vast sea that is love
Take some time to repair you
And all your damaged insides
Do a good job, scrubbing away all the infected parts
Spring clean your emotional soul
Replace it with good feelings all around
Why?
Because while you may find someone who truly loves you
How they treat you in the long run
Is based on a simple premise buried down deep in your insides
That place where pure honesty resides
How YOU feel about YOU
So don't finger point
Don't get mad at love
Instead, take your time and do an honest assessment
See, because honestly
The love you receive is the mirror
Your mirror
Self-reflected
Truth hurts....

Self Love

Love Truth: A door mat is something to be used to stop dirt and debris from being tracked into the home - to clean your shoes. It is a thing.  You are a living, breathing human being; not a door mat.  Waiting on someone to see you differently when you can't does you no good.  


Get on the floor only to pray, play or clean. Stand on your own two feet. Don't expect him to change his thinking - change requires your changed thinking about you. There is nothing more powerful than you loving you! ~V

Take the Shot

Each new day gives you another opportunity at the free throw line of life.  It's not about whether you miss it or make it. No, it's about being willing to take the shot.  No one else can do it for you. Summon the courage that God bestowed upon you, take a deep breath and go for it.  Take your shot.


Breathe deeply
Inhale the scent
What is it?
It's your life
Rich, fragrant
Real
Every day creates a new, fresh opportunity
For you
To have more, be more, do more
To recreate your life
Stop looking back
Like forgotten things, it's time to forgive and forget your past
It can't be erased, but it also can't be changed
So no more tears for spilled milk or lost yesterdays
Because today - today is brand new day
Use it to your advantage
Take your shot

Where is Your Heart?

The heart surrenders everything in the moment. The mind judges and holds back ~Ram Dass ~ Truth: It is our natural instinct to want to be loved. Infants recognize this and make every effort to have their needs met on demand. As we age, the bombarding of people telling us no, and the aftermath of rejection after rejection makes us leery. But it never diminishes what the heart desires. We simply learn to suppress it.


Past experiences are valid. They teach us lessons, just as a child sometimes learns the hard way, why they should not touch hot things we learn how to navigate our way through the minefield that is love. But that navigation is not designed to turn you away from the process of meeting someone. If you read a bad book, or see a bad movie it doesn’t stop you from ever reading or seeing another movie. Perhaps you won’t read anything else from that particular author. So why can’t we take this same view with finding love? If you meet and date someone and it doesn’t work out, take the information away from the relationship, but leave the bitter taste of it behind. Maybe you won’t date tall, sexy guys again. Maybe! Or maybe you’ll discover a little bit more of what you want, and quickly recognize and eliminate those people who don’t meet your criteria. Or better still, you’ll recognize that it was THAT particular man or woman, and it’s not an indictment on the entire species.

Love requires a bit of amnesia, because it’s difficult enough to navigate the terrain and kiss frogs without the added pressure of remembering all the wrong that has been done to you. Expect better from yourself and others. If you're going to remember some things, remember the great things - if there are any. If that's not possible, then perhaps it might be time for you to take a time out and sit in a corner for awhile until you are able to get up and out without an attitude. My thought is that you cannot receive anything with a closed hand. The same applies to your heart. How can you want something, if your mind is constantly telling you no? Be cautious, but be willing....

Resolution

A resolution is an expression. You need resolve or commitment to actually follow through. Life and time are far too precious. Don't waste time declaring things you won't actually do. Your heart knows the truth...

I believe you
feel your heart in the love you express to me
But it's not enough
Because on the day to day
What you've said, and what you do
Don't seem to add up
Or ring true
I feel like a resolution
Something you've committed to do
Early on
While smitten with holiday cheer
Fresh snow on the ground
Eggnog and gift buying on your mind
With the New Year approaching
You decide you have major changes in mind
And you create this list of things you're going to do
But now the holidays are long gone
And the grind of day upon day is all that remains
And now, like going to the gym
This declaration of love is easy to say
But much harder to do
And so, I'm left to ponder
Am I something you are resolved to do
Or am I resolution - a declaration?
The answer is up to you
Your heart knows the truth....

Word Power

Yes, words truly have power. They can empower, disappoint, discourage and a whole lot of other things. But the real power of words lies within us.....

"Other people can no longer hurt me. They are just giving me their observation of me, and I give it meaning" ~From Oprah's Lifeclass ~ You give words spoken to you and that play in your head truth and power. If you know in your core what you are purposed for, anything else someone says or does to you is meaningless. First, because when you truly know the power of who you are, you won't sit by and take it, and most importantly, because YOU know your truth. If you don't know your own power, find affirming words to speak into your life, and spend some time on your knees with you and Jesus to figure it out. We are going to treat ourselves better this year ~V